A study in England of thousands of women and men found that people who went through the good and bad times with the original mate and stayed together were much happier mentally.
It was also found that men who played the field got over the relationships when they ended much quicker then women did.
Women who stay single who once had a great love that did not work out tended to be mentally stable.
The fact that women who live with a man without benefit of marriage are not as happy as the men is because there is no financial protection for them when the relationship ends. Security is everything to women and marriage represents stability and although the relationship can end they will have some rights. This explains why women who are married are more mentally stable then if they simply lived together.
Women have children and need a stable lifestyle and a strong desire to protect themselves and their kids. So marriage is very important financially and also there is the question of respect that everyone needs. If a women has her own career and here own money these thing may be less important.
From a man’s point of view and if he’s over 25 security is not very important. But most men don’t want to be squeezed into a relationship by the women he loves. He want’s it to be his idea. The trick for a woman is to make him believe it is His Idea.
Being married has always been associated with greater mental and physical health. Bachelors don’t live, as long, at least that’s what the myth indicates. In the past studies have shown married men live a longer life with greater psychological happiness.
There was an English study for 10 years ending in the millennium of 10,000 adults. Both men and women were interviewed and asked a series of questions about being depressed or anxious.
Long-lasting relationships that have weathered the storm provided excellent mental health.
People that had failed relationships and were now alone had combinations of grief and anger and were often depressed. Both men and women had poor mental health after this experience. But for those who could move on to new relationships, much of the damage was somewhat reversed. Although women seemed to have a harder time of letting go than men did.
Women’s mental health progressively deteriorated with the more break-ups they experienced.
For men that had several different experiences it seemed the opposite was true. Men who had more then one relationship and moved on seemed to be in excellent mental health. Those men that had only one relationship and not moved on were not as mentally stable.
Women who never married but lived with their mate were in great mental health unlike men in the same situation
Dr. John Breeding, Ph.D. Psychologist talks about the mental health liberation movement, the anti-psychiatry movement, the movement against psychiatric oppression. Sometimes seen as antipsych or antipsychiary or anti-biological psychiatry. This is a movement made up mostly of ex-mental health consumers and the family members of ex-mental health consumers who feel they have been damaged by psychiatry. These people refer to themselves as psychiatric survivors. There are also several medical …
Introduction
Mental health’ properly describes a sense of well-being: the capacity to live in a resourceful and fulfilling manner, having the resilience to deal with the challenges and obstacles which life presents. Mental health ‘problems’ or ‘difficulties’ are terms that can be used to describe temporary reactions to a painful event, stress or external pressures, or systems of drug or alcohol use, lack of sleep or physical illness; this terminology may also be used to describe long-term psychiatric conditions which may have siginificant effects on an individual’s functioning.
Mental health is more than just the absence of mental illness. It includes how you feel about yourself and how you adjust to life events. However, the National Mental Health Association cites 10 characteristics of people who are mentally healthy.
Therapies
Couples Counseling and Family Therapy: These two similar approaches to therapy involve discussions and problem-solving sessions facilitated by a therapist-sometimes with the couple or entire family group, sometimes with individuals. Such therapy can help couples and family members improve their understanding of, and the way they respond to, one another. This type of therapy can resolve patterns of behavior that might lead to more severe mental illness. Family therapy can help educate the individuals about the nature of mental disorders and teach them skills to cope better with the effects of having a family member with a mental illness-such as how to deal with feelings of anger or guilt.
Cognitive therapy or cognitive behavioural therapy: Based on the fact that the way we feel is partly dependent on the way we think about events (cognition). It also stresses the importance of behaving in ways which challenge negative thoughts – for example being active to challenge feelings of hopelessness. Although it may sound like common sense, CBT is more than just positive thinking. Research suggests that it can be effective for people with both severe and moderate depression.
Psychotherapy-is the general term for an interaction in which a trained professional, usually a therapist or analyst, tries to help a patient by following a certain psychological theory or school of thought, to address problems based on emotional suffering, behavioral problems, or a disorder. Through a bond of trust that is developed between therapist and patient, the patient can achieve goals in therapy, such as the elimination of negative behavior and an improvement in well-being.
Body-mind therapy combines the strengths of “talk” therapy with bodywork, such as touch, postural alignment, or exercises to increase body awareness. Also known as mind-body or somatic therapy, it helps people “become deeply aware of their bodily sensations as well as their emotions, images and behavior. Clients become more conscious of how they breathe, move, speak, and where they experience feelings in their bodies.” This increased awareness about how the body holds physical stress and emotional injury informs and directs the therapy process, allowing clients to work through patterns of limitation that are not often resolved on the level of the mind alone.
Characteristics
They feel good about themselves.
They do not become overwhelmed by emotions, such as fear, anger, love, jealousy, guilt, or anxiety.
They feel comfortable with other people.
The ability to enjoy life
Flexibility
Self-actualization
They have lasting and satisfying personal relationships.
They feel comfortable within himself about them.
They like people and trusts them and expects them to like and trust him.
They face their problems; shape their environment.
They do not fear the future, but plan ahead, setting realistic goals.